Ten Self-help Skills 

Persistence 
   Cut it out!
   Diminishing Obstinacy
   When is giving in okay?
   Decreasing Impulsivity
   Wait a minute!
   Do I think before I react?
   Listening to others with   understanding and empathy
   HELLO?
   Do I know the difference between
    hearing and listening? Can I listen     with an open mind?
   Flexibility
   Change your mind!
   Am I able to adjust my behavior
   appropriately to fit the situation?
   Self-Awareness
    Me-me-me-me
   Do I understand my thoughts and
    feelings?
   Personal Relationships
   Just between you and me.....
   Do I use my self-awareness in dealing 
   with others?
   Questioning
   When "why" is wise
  Do I ask questions to figure out
   the situation?
   Restraint
   When the "whys" are not wise
  Do I know when others are   appreciating my curiosity?
   Drawing from Past Experiences
   Whack on the side of the head
   Do I use past experiences to
   approach new situations?
   Reserve
   Precisely put
   Am I able to choose words carefully
    to express my feelings?